More “Holidaze” Thoughts

(Credit for screencaps used goes to In_The_After)

So, after having read tons of posts on the various message boards, I would like to point out some things I missed previously.

First, I’d like to address Krista Vernoff’s comments in the writers’ blog about Owen’s situation with Cristina and Teddy: “He clearly loves them both. Which is…impossible. And devastating” (  How I see it is that Owen may love Teddy as a friend, but he is in love with Cristina.  He made that abundantly clear when he stopped Teddy’s advances and told her point-blank, “I’m in love with Cristina.”  Ouch.  But also the truth.  And I think Krista also has the same distinction of “love” versus “in love.”  During Teddy’s speech to Owen, she tells him, “I love you.  I’m in love with you.”  Considering the fact that Krista wrote those lines, I think it’s safe to assume that she also knows the difference between “love” — as in a love for a family member or friend — and “in love.”  And by telling Teddy that he was in love with Cristina, he effectively burned his bridges with her — which is why it is “devastating.”  And “impossible.”  It’s impossible for Owen to be in a relationship with Cristina and be friends with Teddy.  The only real relationship that Owen and Teddy can have after this moment — at least temporarily while Teddy works to move on — is a cordial, professional one.  Nothing more.  A friendship between them would be completely awkward now, given all that has been revealed and all that has happened.  Owen cannot give Teddy what she wants.  What romantic feelings he had for her in the past are just that — in the past.  Sorry, Teddy, but this is one relationship that you probably shouldn’t try to wait out.  Cristina is no Beth.  Owen’s staying for a long, long time.  Forty plus years long.

paulmichaeljensen of the Yang-Hunt Thread made a great point about how Owen wouldn’t have stayed with Cristina had he not thought that he could give her his “whole heart” — in other words, no lingering romantic entanglements with  Teddy.  I still believe he’s a honorable man  — one who would know better than to stay in a relationship that his heart just wasn’t into.  I mean, that’s why he broke off his engagement with Beth, right?  He knew it wasn’t fair for her to continue the ruse of their engagement.  He wasn’t the man she knew from before, and he couldn’t let her be saddled up with a man who was no longer in love with her.  But, he is still in love with Cristina.  That much is clear.  Even as she tries to let him off the hook so that he can be with Teddy, he refuses — both times.  He clings to her because he doesn’t want to lose her.  And he gets this look on his face, after she asks him if he’s sure, where he realizes just how much Cristina loves him — she loves him enough to let him go so that he can be happy.  Meredith’s voice-over speaks of the gift of giving — and that’s what Cristina tries to do.  She’s generously trying to give Owen a free pass, where he can be with Teddy and she would understand.  There’s no anger, no judgment — she would sacrifice her own happiness for his.  It reminds me a bit of that classic tale about a couple who sacrifice something they love so that they can give their partner a meaningful gift: the girl sells her hair to buy her boyfriend a chain for his father’s watch while the boy sells his father’s watch to buy her an expensive comb for her hair.  (Granted, the weak point of this story is that hair can grow back, but you get the idea.)  What Cristina does in this last scene reverberates a similar theme of generosity.  And I, for one, was pleasantly surprised to see how much she has grown as a woman and a doctor this episode.

We also shouldn’t disregard Owen’s “gift” either from the last episode (“A New History”).  Even with the new information about his past with Teddy, I still believe that his gift of a cardio mentor for Cristina was probably the best gift she’d ever gotten.  Aside from the complications that Teddy brings to Cristina’s personal life, Teddy truly is the perfect present for the “scalpel-hungry animal” that Cristina had become.  Finally, Cristina gets a mentor who truly teaches her and appreciates Cristina’s brilliance as a blossoming cardio goddess.  Owen gave Cristina back one of her loves — her love for cardio surgery.  He does understand her, and he does see her need to be taught.  So, I think it’s unfair to lessen the gesture he made with recruiting Teddy.  It was a great gift.  Unfortunately, the gift had unseen strings attached to it.

And as we cannot disregard just how good of a present Teddy truly is now that we know more of the past, we also cannot disregard Owen’s words to Cristina about how Teddy and him were “friends.”  He’s not lying.  Neither of them acted on their feelings, and both of them remained within the boundaries of friendship while they were in Iraq together.  And I don’t blame Owen for not talking of his feelings for Teddy before because they were not relevant anymore.  He’d moved on.  He’d met Cristina, swept her off her feet, pulled an icicle out of her chest, and mended her broken heart.  And most importantly, he fell in love with her.  Unless there are current feelings, I don’t see any point in dredging up the past.  And on Owen’s part, there aren’t any residual romantic feelings.  Sure, he still cares for Teddy.  But how could he not?  They were in Iraq together — strong bonds are forged between members of the military.  It’s hard not to when you survive a war together.  A literal one at that.

But Owen and Cristina also survived a war together.  They survived his PTSD and all the inner demons that came with it.  Yet, due to Cristina’s own personal insecurities, she doesn’t realize that the patients’ love story is hers and Owen’s.  She thinks Nathan’s comments about “surviv[ing] a war together” was referring to the literal war that Owen and Teddy survived.  Little does she know that the real counterparts are her and Owen.  The similarities are too many to ignore.   Both couples fell in love within a brief period of time.  Both survived a “war” and “came out on the other side” intact and stronger than ever as a pair.  Both men “proposed” to their women (even KMK thought Owen’s “I want to be around in 40 years” speech was a proposal).  And as many posters, including mayjr and ohcyfan, pointed out, both women were “heartless” (Burke effectively broke Cristina’s) and received new ones.  In fact, not only did Owen mend Cristina’s, but he also gave her his.  “My problems become your problems,” he said in the season 6 premiere.  Well, along the same lines, his heart became hers — which is why when Cristina is hurt, he hurts as well.  If you break Cristina’s heart, you’re going to be breaking Owen’s, too.

21 responses to “More “Holidaze” Thoughts

  1. Yay!!!! Congratulations on the new Blog. I know it’s still the first day, but it is great to have all your analysis classified, and also the additional thoughts above.

    Just wanted to be the first one in leaving a comment and sending you a big hug! 🙂

  2. Congrats on the blog Shli! I put it in my favorites! It is great to have a place with all your work, I ‘ll be coming here as often as I can. Good luck!

    • That is so awesome! I love being someone’s “favorite.” Haha, okay, I know it doesn’t mean that I’m your favorite, but I’m going to pretend that’s what you meant.

  3. I’m so glad you did this. Congratulations! 🙂

  4. love your post!!! i know its strange but i can always give a speech, say what i need to say but just cant write down the words!! thank you for doing that.

    • Maybe you should record it and post it on YouTube, lol. Thanks for commenting! I’m excited that you guys are taking the time to do so. 🙂

  5. Yeah for the blog! Awesome posts-can’t wait to read more!

  6. shli: Congratulations on your new blog! Very nice. Interesting and insightful post, as always. Thanks!

  7. Yaaaaayyyy! Woo hoo! Thanks soo much for doing this Shli! Congratulations!!! I have added it to my favourites page already. And wordpress looks better than blogger. I’m sure its because of what you’ve done to this yourself. Love all the pictures!!! I’m going to be forever distracted by your lovely site now and never get any of my work done! Curse you!;-D Thank heavens for you! xo

    • My pleasure, Ginger! Yay, I’m another person’s “favorite.” I’m so excited! Haha, I’m glad you like the pictures. I have a lot of fun staring at screencaps. 🙂 Haha, I don’t get my own work done. And I’m thankful for you!

  8. Congratulation on you new blog I’ve been an avid fan of your for some time. I don’t post on the Yang-Hunt Thread, but I read it every day. Your analysis of our favorite couple is simply amazing. I just love watching Cris and Owen together and sure hope we see more of them in 2010. The show would be nothing without them…..

    Keep up the good work…. You go Girlfriend…..

    • Hi Alyssa! You have no idea how much it thrills me that you consider yourself a “fan” of me. It’s weird thinking that I have “fans.” I kinda like it. 😉 Don’t worry, I won’t let it go to my head … much. Hehe. I so do appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment. Or to even take the time to read the insanely long rambles I write. Thank you. And I am right there with you in hoping that we see more of them in 2010. And ]the fact that Shonda and Betsey mentioned seeing more of them at home is definitely going to keep me excited. Not that getting me excited for Cristina and Owen is ever a hard thing to do. Thanks again, Alyssa! I hope you keep these comments coming. 🙂

  9. Hi Shli – thanks so much for doing this. I read at the YHT that you have kept all your episode analyses for Season 6, but only the one for ELL in Season 5. I’m looking forward to re-reading the Season 6 analyses when you get a chance to post them, but I’m REALLY looking forward to the one for ELL. I didn’t read it at the time (it predated my lurking days) and I would love to see it now.

    This blog is a beacon in this fairly dark time – – a hiatus and an internet storm of (IMO) unfair criticism of Owen. Your blog will be a huge help in getting through this time, until the new episodes begin and, I believe, our couple will be together and our Hot Mess will be redeemed. Thank you again!

    • HopeW, it is my pleasure to do these. Much better for my sanity to let it all out than to keep all these thoughts locked in my head. Then I really would need to have a visit to an asylum. I will definitely try to quickly edit my previous episode analyses. I’ve already made the pictures and chosen the screencaps. Now, I just need to get them posted.

      Thank you so much for reading. Your feedback is always welcomed and encouraged. I hope that you’re right in that this blog can help people see a more optimistic and happier view of what’s going on with Cristina and Owen currently. You know me — always spreading the positivity. And I totally believe that Cristina and Owen will make it through this season better and stronger (and hotter) than ever. And hopefully, the criticisms of Owen’s character will be negated. Thank you again! Hugs and kisses!

  10. LMFAO “Sorry, Teddy, but this is one relationship that you probably shouldn’t try to wait out. Cristina is no Beth. Owen’s staying for a long, long time. Forty plus years long.” you got that right, back back Teddster you’ll be an old maid waiting around for this ship to crash and burn. I’m evil and I know it Mwahahahahaha
    “scalpel-hungry animal” LMBO after the “whoring yourself for surgeries” comment I can’t help but laugh anytime Cristina and a scalpel are mentioned. That woman will do just about anything for a chance to cut and it’s as hilarious as its crazy.
    Thanks for this, it made me laugh. And congrats on getting this all together, you must’ve had some time on your hands… faved it so I can read and bug the hell out of ya when we get more episodes =P

    • LOL, Mel! I am getting the sense that we should never put you and Teddy in the same room together (though, if you ever did get the chance to enter the world of Seattle Grace, I’m sure that Teddy would definitely not be the first person you’d find).

      You’re more than welcome. I am actually cutting into sleep time to do it because I want to get it done before I leave for vacation and am without my laptop. But for you guys, I am definitely happy to forsake a few minutes of sleep. And I adore sleep, so you know that means a lot. And please do “bug” me — though it’s the kind of “bugging” that I will look forward to. 😀

      • You aint never lied about that… on both accounts, loathe her and I most definitely wouldn’t be looking for her boxcutter head if I ever got warped into SGH world LMAO

        Awwww, how sweet! You make us feel SO special… Hope you’re having a fabulous vacation, chica! Stay safe!

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